Salisbury Sunrises: Blog https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog en-us (C) Alexandra Crawford salisburysunrises@gmail.com (Salisbury Sunrises) Mon, 16 Mar 2020 07:02:00 GMT Mon, 16 Mar 2020 07:02:00 GMT https://www.salisburysunrises.com/img/s/v-12/u1042039890-o1010344858-50.jpg Salisbury Sunrises: Blog https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog 120 90 Bring on the Rain https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog/2016/4/bring-on-the-rain I took off for a walk on the beach today.  It was an impulse.  The beach called me.  It was cloudy and rain was predicted but I didn’t even think about that.  I was called and I went.  About halfway back the deluge began.  My down jacket soon became soaked and saggy.  Thankfully it was not a brutally cold day but the dampness reached me under all the layers. 
 


 

My first thought was, “Of course it’s raining.  I should have thought about that.  Why didn’t I wear a raincoat?” 
 

See what I just did there?  I popped right back into the past and voiced some recriminations to myself about something I had no power to change in that moment.  Not only that, I used one of the least powerful words in the English language.  “Should”.  Why do we even have that word? (We shouldn’t)  Should doesn’t even have a meaning.  The description in the dictionary is “used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions”.  This word doesn’t even do anything.  It’s “used to indicate”.  When we’ve already done something, or neglected to do something, what purpose does it serve to indicate that we’ve done something wrong?  Especially just to ourselves.  I could actually see using it if I were trying to let someone else know that I understood what would have been the appropriate action to take in a situation.  For example, in a work situation where I’d made a mistake it might be useful to tell my supervisor what action I “should have taken.”  However, if the word didn’t exist I’m sure I could find a better way such as, “In the future I’ll know to…”
 

 

But, to use the word by myself, alone?  Wow.  Now there’s an entirely useless habit!

 

Sadly, “should” is in the top 30% of words in usage.  Oh boy, we’re doing an awful lot of “shoulding on ourselves” and other people as well. How often have you been successful in changing someone else’s behavior by telling them what they “should” or “shouldn’t” do?

 

So, what should I do instead of shoulding on myself?  (Irony intended).  Once I became aware of my first impulse I went to my second (I’m working on making it my first) which was to embrace what was happening.  Several helpful thoughts came to mind.  I remembered a favorite speech my friend Dan gave at Toastmasters many years ago.  It was titled “Yes!”  Dan’s premise was to have your first impulse in response to anything be “Yes!”, to embrace everything that comes your way.  Be present to what this moment has to offer.  Explore this particular moment with curiosity and wonder. When I did that out on the beach in the rain I began to laugh, dance and sing a song!  Words from Natasha Bedingfield’s “Unwritten” came to mind, “Feel the rain on your skin, no one else can feel it for you.  No one else, no one else.”  And, from Jo Dee Messina, “Tomorrow’s another day and I’m thirsty anyway, so bring on the rain.”

 

Hmm…when I’m already caught in the rain without a raincoat, wallow in regret, discomfort and self-criticism?  Or laugh, dance and sing?  The choice is clear to me.  I’m ready to give up my shoulds.  Are you?
 

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August at Salisbury Beach https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog/2014/7/august-at-salisbury-beach We are heading into August at Salisbury Beach.  August 1st the Fox 25 Zip Trip Team will be visiting from 6 -10 in the morning at Joe's Playland.  Come on down and show your love for our beach!  And don't forget the free live concerts and fireworks on Saturday nights all provided by the Salisbury Beach Partnership, Inc.  Go to http://beachfests.org/ for details.  For sunrises that you are not lucky enough to see (or willing to get up for), keep visiting salisburysunrises.com on Facebook or purchase one here to remind you every day of our wonderful beach.  This month 20% of the website profits will go to our great friend, The Salisbury Beach Partnership, Inc.  Enjoy the rest of your summer!

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Winter at the Beach https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog/2013/12/winter-at-the-beach Believe it or not, I love winter at the beach almost as much as summer.  Frozen fingers aside, beach walks are rewarded with loads of sea glass, sand dollars and, on a day like today or tomorrow, washed up lobster traps and buoys.  Also, I don't have to get up as early to see the sunrise!  And, of course, there are the storms.  Safe and sound behind a dune, I love to ride them out while the wind is howling and the snow is flying past my window.  When the wind settles down, I can still hear the hum of the ocean roiling and churning and, as I like to think it, polishing the sea glass:) Here are a few minutes of the view from the dune this morning.  Enjoy!

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Do You Have 8 Minutes? https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog/2013/11/do-you-have-8-minutes 8 minutes to relax? 8 minutes to be thankful? 8 minutes to watch the sun rise?  Grab a cup of coffee or hot chocolate, get comfortable, click below and enjoy....

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Welcome to June! https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog/2013/6/welcome-to-june Have you ever attended a free concert and fireworks at Salisbury Beach?  Have you ever thought about how that all happens?  Well, it turns out it isn’t simply magic.  The events are planned, paid for and presented by the Salisbury Beach Partnership, a dedicated group of of local residents, beach advocates, land owners, businesses,  artists, environmentalists and community leaders who are committed to the revitalization of Salisbury Beach and, frankly, the opportunity for everyone who comes to Salisbury Beach to have a whole lot of fun!

Where does the Salisbury Beach Partnership get the funds to deliver all their great events?  As a non-profit organization, they rely on the donations from local businesses and people like you and me.

This  month, Salisburysunrises.com is delighted to donate 20% of the profits from purchases made on the website and at the Sand and Sea Festival June 29 -30 to the Salisbury Beach Partnership.  Even if you don’t care to purchase any prints, please consider donating directly to the Salisbury Beach Partnership so they can continue their great works.  And if neither of those options suits you, how about being a volunteer?  Visit www.beachfests.org for more information and follow the Salisbury Beach Partnership on Facebook.  

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Waking up to Beauty on Salisbury Beach https://www.salisburysunrises.com/blog/2013/5/waking-up-to-beauty-on-salisbury-beach Each day I wake to see if the sunrise will be visible.  I remind myself on the cloudy days that even if I can't see it, the sun is still rising. (Never mind the fact that the sun is actually not moving but we are!) The point is, I have that faith.  I have faith in things I cannot see. I have faith that the earth will keep rotating on its axis and it will appear as though the sun is rising over the horizon.

On the days when I can see it, I do.  It makes it easy for me to get up in the morning.  My morning routine is not routine since it is ruled by something I cannot control...the sunrise.  And there's the part about getting to work on time.  Sometimes, write first then see the sunrise and then take a shower.  Sometimes, see the sunrise, shower and then write.  Sometimes the sunrise interrupts the writing and the shower has to be very quick!  I like it this way.  I love to be a witness to the unique beginning of each day and I don't mind making the adjustments.  Actually, who wants every day to be the same?  

Sunrise today, May 4, 2013

May 4, 2013

 

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